by DavidFraser | Oct 20, 2014 | Collaboration, Relationship Skills
Everyone seems to want autonomy at the moment—well, perhaps not quite everybody. The trouble is… Complete autonomy means no influence. If we’re serious about collaboration, we have to share power. We have to accept we won’t get our way on everything. If we want...
by DavidFraser | Oct 13, 2014 | Relationship Skills
It’s remarkable how damaging it is to a relationship when we have to drag information out of someone—when we sense we aren’t being told everything and our time may be being wasted because we’re trying to solve a problem without all the facts. Arguably, this was a...
by DavidFraser | Oct 6, 2014 | Leadership, Relationship Skills
It’s striking how often middle level to senior people in organisations say they doubt the ordinary folk will feel safe speaking frankly about the business and what they see needs attention in front of top management. Where that sentiment exists—and it’s more the rule...
by DavidFraser | Oct 1, 2014 | Communication, Leadership, Learning, Personal Mastery, Relationship Skills
How others see us is very important in determining our results and what happens in our lives. Many factors affect that, of course: Our track record and so on. However, a big part of it is how we see ourselves. Surprisingly perhaps… The limiting factor in what we...
by DavidFraser | Sep 22, 2014 | Relationship Skills
To paraphrase 13th century poet, Mevlana Jelaluddin Rumi… “Out beyond ideas of yes and no, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” Asking a closed question always seemed to me a clumsy way of opening a conversation about something as complex as the future of a...
by DavidFraser | Sep 15, 2014 | Change, Influence, Relationship Skills
If Ian Paisley and Martin McGuinness can become best buddies, surely just about anyone can be reconciled… It seems to me Ian Paisley is an interesting example of how changing yourself changes the system—the world around you—especially if you are known to a lot...
